Re: 2 Years out, and not there yet...HELP
Shirley, if your insurance will not cover it, use the Internet to research depression, food obsessions and overeaters anonymous. You can attend OA meetings at no cost and meet others who are working their way out of self sabotaging behaviours.
Re: 2 Years out, and not there yet...HELP
I use to have a husband (lol) who NEVER finished anything. He told me once that he didnt ever finish things becuase then if the project did not turn out well, he could not say, "Im not finished yet". I have no clue if that even relates to you, but.....
I can relate to your life...I was always underweight! Never exercised - hated it and still do. I have never exercised since my sleee except some occasional swimming and sporadic hikes with my dogs. I was 118 when I got pregnant with each child and always returned to 118 post pregnancy. Then, at 35, I had a hysterectlmy and it was WEIGHT GAIN HISTORY from then on until I was 57 and finally had the sleeve. Unlike you, though, I was quite anxious to get back to my thin self! Now, at 132, Size 6/8, I am happy with my weight and feel so good about myself. I did go the extra couple miles with Plastics to increase my self esteem even more because I DESERVE it and so do you. Dont hold YOURSELF back. Get to your goal and get it over with!!! :-) You dont need advicer on how or what to eat or how to exercise...you know all that. You need to get out of your own head. GOOD LUCK! Email me anytime!!
Re: 2 Years out, and not there yet...HELP
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incredibleshrnkngshirly
Well folks, come July 13, 2013 I will be two years sleeved, and I'm not at goal. I'm not about to blame the sleeve. I know where my failure begins and ends...with me! I still suffer from an eating disorder. I can't say I crave anything, I just love to eat. I can't eat much but I'm certainly eating more than I used too. I've gained about eight to ten pounds...lost a few and my weight just hovers around the same place. I don't exercise, never have, have no desire to. I'm afraid that I have just given up altogether. I'm not even sure why I'm telling you all now. I guess I just needed to write it out, ask for your prayers and see what you all have to say. I should have made my goal last year sometime. I wear a size 16, I wanted to get down to a fourteen. It's like, I'm almost there and can't go anymore. I'm scared, I'm frustrated, and I'm mad at myself. I search the forum every day for motivation....I was so excited before, but that wore off...now I'm just depressed over the whole thing. I know I'm healthier and I'm glad for that. I'm praying for Gods help to be stronger around food. Any advice is appreciated.:(
I'm 18 months out from surgery, and I can relate with you. I guess we are the same; one Shirley to another. I'm anxious to hear advice from others. Praying for you. Please pray for me.
Re: 2 Years out, and not there yet...HELP
Hi there,
I am two years out as well and no where near my goal. I lost 73 pounds and have gained back 35 of them. I still struggle with my eating disorder, but I am trying to get back on track, since I am now having back and hip problems, not to mention I had to be put back on my blood pressure medicine.
I don't like to exercise either, but I have fallen in love with yoga. You burn calories and there are so many other benefits. Give it a try. :)
Re: 2 Years out, and not there yet...HELP
I haven't had time to read the other comments, but you HAVE to get up off your seat and move! I have to say I used to despise exercise. Truly hated it. I found Jazzercise and have never looked back. It is fun, it is ZERO condemnation since the sizes range from 4-30 (where I was when I started), from age 16-85. I have never seen guys where I go but that can happen, just not often. Honestly it is amazing, and fun. The routines change so often that your body doesn't get in a rut, the music changes often with the routines, etc. Just do it. Try it out.
Re: 2 Years out, and not there yet...HELP
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Originally Posted by
incredibleshrnkngshirly
Well folks, come July 13, 2013 I will be two years sleeved, and I'm not at goal. I'm not about to blame the sleeve. I know where my failure begins and ends...with me! I still suffer from an eating disorder. I can't say I crave anything, I just love to eat. I can't eat much but I'm certainly eating more than I used too. I've gained about eight to ten pounds...lost a few and my weight just hovers around the same place. I don't exercise, never have, have no desire to. I'm afraid that I have just given up altogether. I'm not even sure why I'm telling you all now. I guess I just needed to write it out, ask for your prayers and see what you all have to say. I should have made my goal last year sometime. I wear a size 16, I wanted to get down to a fourteen. It's like, I'm almost there and can't go anymore. I'm scared, I'm frustrated, and I'm mad at myself. I search the forum every day for motivation....I was so excited before, but that wore off...now I'm just depressed over the whole thing. I know I'm healthier and I'm glad for that. I'm praying for Gods help to be stronger around food. Any advice is appreciated.:(
Hi. My advice to you is this: write down everything you eat. You'll see that if you just cut out one or two small things every day you'll start dropping those lbs. I was eating popcorn and Weight Watcher ice cream everyday. As soon as I gave up the ice cream I dropped 5lbs. And I've kept it off. I'm still not at goal-I'm about 10-15 lbs away - but it's in the foreseeable future. You CAN do this if you'll stop sabotaging yourself. Go back to the early days and start counting carbs again. That's probably a good place to start. Keep track by using MY FITNESS PAL. It really helps a lot. Good luck to you.
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Originally Posted by
Truebody
Shirley, if your insurance will not cover it, use the Internet to research depression, food obsessions and overeaters anonymous. You can attend OA meetings at no cost and meet others who are working their way out of self sabotaging behaviours.
I believe I will try this, I think I am totally out of control and it truly scares me.
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Andrea8967
Hi. My advice to you is this: write down everything you eat. You'll see that if you just cut out one or two small things every day you'll start dropping those lbs. I was eating popcorn and Weight Watcher ice cream everyday. As soon as I gave up the ice cream I dropped 5lbs. And I've kept it off. I'm still not at goal-I'm about 10-15 lbs away - but it's in the foreseeable future. You CAN do this if you'll stop sabotaging yourself. Go back to the early days and start counting carbs again. That's probably a good place to start. Keep track by using MY FITNESS PAL. It really helps a lot. Good luck to you.
Thank you Andrea, I was eating popcorn every night too. Had to stop buying it, just like the other junk food. I'm going to the fridge and getting Swiss cheese, then an hour later I will get a yogurt, then crackers and I'm not even hungry! Last night I got a small bowl of Grape nuts...just for the crunch! Couldn't even eat them all, was too full...so frustrating!
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Originally Posted by
celticmom218
Hi there,
I am two years out as well and no where near my goal. I lost 73 pounds and have gained back 35 of them. I still struggle with my eating disorder, but I am trying to get back on track, since I am now having back and hip problems, not to mention I had to be put back on my blood pressure medicine.
I don't like to exercise either, but I have fallen in love with yoga. You burn calories and there are so many other benefits. Give it a try. :)
Thank you Jess, I wondered if I was just going crazy or just plain stupid. I can't go back to the way I was. My life was on a spiral down hill and gaining momentum. Three doctors told me to do something or plan my funeral :-(. What makes me eat all the time? I wish I knew. I will be putting food in my mouth and crying at the same time. My sister in law had her by pass one month after I had my sleeve. She has lost all of her weight and asked me if I could use a size 12 dress. I said No thanks I wear jeans to work! I couldn't tell her that I wear a sixteen!!! I can look into Yoga....I don't know anything about it but I an try. Thank you for letting me know I'm not alone out here. I will be praying for you.....
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GrandmaS
I'm 18 months out from surgery, and I can relate with you. I guess we are the same; one Shirley to another. I'm anxious to hear advice from others. Praying for you. Please pray for me.
Prayers lifted for all of us Shirley. We are all on a journey, I read so many wonderful stories on here. I'm asking God for help, I'm trying not to let fear run my life but it's getting harder not to be afraid.
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Originally Posted by
erinspice
I haven't had time to read the other comments, but you HAVE to get up off your seat and move! I have to say I used to despise exercise. Truly hated it. I found Jazzercise and have never looked back. It is fun, it is ZERO condemnation since the sizes range from 4-30 (where I was when I started), from age 16-85. I have never seen guys where I go but that can happen, just not often. Honestly it is amazing, and fun. The routines change so often that your body doesn't get in a rut, the music changes often with the routines, etc. Just do it. Try it out.
Thank you Trace...I know I need to do something....everything is co-Ed down here.....I'm too embarrassed to go....I think walking is going to be my choice.....
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Originally Posted by
Msvetrn
I use to have a husband (lol) who NEVER finished anything. He told me once that he didnt ever finish things becuase then if the project did not turn out well, he could not say, "Im not finished yet". I have no clue if that even relates to you, but.....
I can relate to your life...I was always underweight! Never exercised - hated it and still do. I have never exercised since my sleee except some occasional swimming and sporadic hikes with my dogs. I was 118 when I got pregnant with each child and always returned to 118 post pregnancy. Then, at 35, I had a hysterectlmy and it was WEIGHT GAIN HISTORY from then on until I was 57 and finally had the sleeve. Unlike you, though, I was quite anxious to get back to my thin self! Now, at 132, Size 6/8, I am happy with my weight and feel so good about myself. I did go the extra couple miles with Plastics to increase my self esteem even more because I DESERVE it and so do you. Dont hold YOURSELF back. Get to your goal and get it over with!!! :-) You dont need advicer on how or what to eat or how to exercise...you know all that. You need to get out of your own head. GOOD LUCK! Email me anytime!!
Thank you Christy, you make me want to get up and tackle this! I appreciate all the advice and all of you are right, I know what is right, I just need to get off my butt and stop whining about it. I want that excitement back, I don't know when I lost it! I knew the sleeve was just a tool and not a silver bullet. I will be 55 in August, I had a hysterectomy thirteen years ago...I know things slowdown at my age, but I need to lose thirty more pounds in order to be where I want to be.
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To start with you have not failed! You have lost 80 freaking unbelieveable pounds. You know how many people would give the cat away to do that. You are going through a huge stange in your life and it has caught up with you. What would happen if you woke up and were a size 14 ? The world you live in would not stop but you sure as heck would fit better in it! You got this girl !!!!!!!!!!!!!! Now go take a walk and talk to the birds :)
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christine53
To start with you have not failed! You have lost 80 freaking unbelieveable pounds. You know how many people would give the cat away to do that. You are going through a huge stange in your life and it has caught up with you. What would happen if you woke up and were a size 14 ? The world you live in would not stop but you sure as heck would fit better in it! You got this girl !!!!!!!!!!!!!! Now go take a walk and talk to the birds :)
LOL, thank you Christine....I know I have a lot to be grateful for. I do remember not wanting to get out of bed because I knew my feet and my knees were going to hurt like crazy when I stood up on them. I moved like a 90 year old lady and had to flop down in my convertible. Now I get right up out of bed and walk with no pain, I can sit down in the car instead of flopping and I get out easier too. It is a huge blessing to have lost what I have. I've never been a competitive person, but I wonder if maybe I am just jealous of my sister in law's success now....I am going to go walk now, and perhaps have a conversation with the birds, maybe I can out run the men in the white coats now...LOL
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Oh ya that's what I'm talking about :) The only men in coats we like is the ones in black leather Harley jackets ;)