Sharon, I'm not posting this part about Kristi on the site. She was being moved without her parents, who will have to travel up to Minnesota from Sioux Falls. She facetimed with her closest friends, ws desparate to see her mom and dad before surgery and very scared.

There is a chance that the infection in the upper spine and neck may leave more damage, as in being unable to have full function of hands/arms.

I hear from her most days, but expect her to be recovering from whatever they did toay and tomorrow.

She does not believe it was the result of the sleeve, but rather the stress of the surgery that caused the lupus to flare, resulting in inflammation everywhere.

She is a fighter, but she's the age of my middle daughter, and she is just such a joy. Truly praying for full recovery for her.

Is this the same climb you are going to do?
http://sixtyandme.com/dont-tread-on-...upport-system/

How are you doing?

My condolences on the passing of your mom. Sounds like you were there right up till the end. I'm also a carer for my mom, 88 years old. It always seems like they will be around forever! Blessings to you.

Oh Sharon... I am so sorry!
These are sad times for you and your family.
I wish you much strenght...

Ehm... did I miss something?

You are in my heart and thoughts! Sending you immense love through this difficult time <3 <3 <3

I'm so sorry, I thought that might happen. Much love at such a difficult time. I'm so glad you spent that time with her x

Sharon, It's Annie. I got "locked out" new name is AnnieStillG. It's still me!

Sraebaer, thinking of you and your Mama. I know you are spending all your time there, I think thats a good plan but spend some time wandering out to the sunshine, getting a coffee etc here and there. Your Mama is getting the message 'I am here, I am with you'. This is a beautiful thing. Much love x

How is your mom doing?

Sharon, it is often hard to remember to find the moment in front of you -- we spend so much time in the past, and looking ahead. A lesson I work on daily.

Here is a very positive link on resources https://www.aarp.org/caregiving/loca...aregivers.html for caregivers

Really?
Your name is not Susan?
I am so sorry, I have no idea why I call you that...
Won't happen again.

I am sorry to hear about your mom.
But she is very lucky to have you around to organize things and give her the care she may need.
First we raise and take care of our children, after that we take care of our parents and some day our children will take care of us (hopefully).
The circle of life.

Sharon (my bad - someone noted you as Susan...) I have a wonderful paperback Caregiver book; I'd be happy to mail it to you, if you think it might provide some comfort or ideas. I had a "muddle" of about 5 years due to medication, and my poor husband and oldest daughter had a time. My PCP listened. They diagnosed me with Parkinsons, when it was the meds. Grateful to have dodge it. I know how difficult it was for those trying to care for me -- I was pretty resistant and finally paranoid. Life's a trip, yep!
I am content, which is probably the same as happy; my life is in most areas way better than its ever been, and certainly the return to reasonable health has been some of it. Adult children who are successful and good citizens, good friends with each other, and contribute to the world in positive ways. So in spite of me, they are pretty darn remarkable. And Jim. He's just one of the best human beings, say even people who've known him for 65 years. I really feel fortunate. Lots of men would have just locked me up!