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Anyone else hate weight loss praise?

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So I just realized that being praised for weight loss is embarrassing and insulting. It has always made me really uncomfortable but I never explored my feelings as to why until recently gaining a lot of my weight back.

I always said thank you, but what I hear is "oh thank God you lost that weight, you looked horrible". I know I cant be the only pessimist feeling this way?

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  1. Karen L's Avatar
    Okay, I deal with similar thoughts when some people say things to me about how good I am doing or when they ask if I feel better. Pisses me off really bad sometimes! Some are genuine and are happy for me and I can tell. Others are like you said, thank goodness you lost weight! Makes you feel like you disgusted them anytime they had to look at you. Not sure why, but I wanna smack some of them. I had a lady the other day say, "Wow, you've lost weight. I KNOW you HAVE to feel better!" Number one, she's never been nice to me. Number two, I have never told her I felt bad. Number three, keep your snooty nose outta my business. End of rant! LOL
  2. neaty521's Avatar
    HAHAH I love it! I am so glad I am not the only one who feels this way. But you are right, people ask me how I feel as well. And I crush them but saying that I still feel pretty shitty. I am tired all the time, I am always hungry, etc. Then I wait for them to scramble with something to say.

    And you are right, some people are quite sincere about it. But others, I just want to punch in the face.
  3. Aydensmomma's Avatar
    It depends on who's saying it.....
    Now I'm getting the "you lost weight, you look great but don't loose anymore"
    ........soooo, I was too heavy before and now I'm not heavy enough?
    Just. Annoying.
  4. neaty521's Avatar
    I don't understand why people are so occupied with worrying about another persons weight!
  5. thenewmetoday's Avatar
    I try to remember...."WHAT YOU THINK OF ME IS NONE OF MY BUSINESS"........
  6. SoNotABarbie's Avatar
    I rather hear that than wow, looks like you put on a few pounds lol
  7. sraebaer's Avatar
    I hear the same thing as you in my head, that I must have been really fat before. The weird thing is I haven't lost a pound in a year, and I still continually hear how much weight I am losing. Really?!? This August 2nd I look exactly the same as I did last August 2nd, so what's going on here? Maybe commenting on my weight is all people can think of to talk about? It can't be such a shock to see me as regular-sized as time goes on.
  8. cabakarich's Avatar
    I love hearing how good I look. People are really curious especially when they have some weight to lose themselves. I know I looked horrible before and hearing the compliments almost daily really boosts my confidence. My stepmom tells me it looks like I've lost weight every time I see her, even though I didn't lose anything for almost 4 months. I finally started losing again last week and can't wait for more compliments!
  9. Joe Poppa's Avatar
    Maybe because if someone was never obese they are not in touch with how even positive remarks about someone's weight loss may bring up bad feelings.

    I am sure almost all of those people had good intentions, the words some of them use are not always the best choice.
  10. beachgirl22851's Avatar
    I work with the public, and people are really noticing and commenting on my weight loss now. What I hear the most is- you've always dressed nice and looked nice, but now my goodness you are so pretty! So, tell me what you REALLY thought of me before I lost weight.... LOL!
  11. azladyrider's Avatar
    I loved it but then again everyone all said I never needed to lose weight anyway - til they saw before pictures and realized they just never saw me as being heavy - I was just me. I'm over 3 years out and still hear it all the time - mostly cause I had a tummy tuck in January so that helped alot
  12. butterfly53's Avatar
    LOL, Beachgirl122851, I hear that exact same think, haha.
  13. Jmichelle's Avatar
    No, you are not alone! I was just discussing this very topic with my co-worker yesterday. She is also obese, but is losing weight. Sometimes the nice comments are kinda hard to take.

    Beachgirl122851...Amen! LOL!