Just slow down and take a deep breath and say a little prayer. Everything will be fine.

Oh, honey ... what an awful intersection of stressful events for you. So sorry.

It's time you learned a new word -- No. With a smile. And put some other words around it. Words like: "It would be great if I could do that. But at this time, given everything else on my plate, I have to say NO."

Repeat it. Repeat it. Repeat it. Make it your own. (And if you think you can say it better in your own words, figure out those words -- and then repeat those until you're comfortable with them.)

Also read the stuff at this link: How to Say No Without Feeling Guilty: 11 Steps (with Pictures)

Best wishes to you and your husband.

Ann

I applaud you for everything you have been doing, and prayers that your husband has a full recovery.

Please remember that you are important also and if something happens to you, you will not be there to help or care for everyone else. I know, I have been there.

Breathe, honey. Please don't add guilt to the tremendous stress you're under. You are one giant step ahead of the old you already: You recognize your old habits and you know where they lead.

If there is a protein bar out there you can stomach, keep some with you so you don't end up going all day without eating again. Pre-made protein shakes make quick meals as well. The hardest part will be learning to eat when you have time, not waiting to be hungry.

I moved in to take care of my mother in her final days and I understand that you can't always just say no when family needs you, but looking back, I also know now that I didn't have to do everything myself. Others were there who could have helped if I'd only asked--done the shopping, ran my errands, made a few extra meals for the freezer, or just stopped by to help with the housework. You don't have to be Superwoman. Please, if there's anyone who can give you the support you need right now, ask.

My prayers and best wishes for recovery for you and your husband.

Take 30 min out of ur life and take a nice hot bath, it will do wonders and u can use that time to figure out how 2 nicely tell everyone that u need time 4 urself so ur not gonna b as readily available for them. Good luck 2 u

hummmmm this sounds too familiar... instead of the husband it will be my twin girls and my god sister kids which i now have temp custody of ..... im starting the word NO now !!! of course what i can say to !!!.... your in my prayers suga

You have a lot going on, but like others said, you'll have to carve out some time for yourself. You might have to set a timer on your phone to remind you to get your protein and other food in. You don't want to be standing over the toilet all the time!

I understand, I once had this issue too. But it's important to remember that if YOU don't take good care of YOU, you won't be able to help those you love. Stay eouraged, and know that you're not alone.

I understand running around for hubby, but you need to say no or have other family members make other plans rather than relying on you. Please take time for you!

Don't freak out - it's completely understandable that you misjudge this very occasionally. I have thrown up maybe 3 or 4 times due to overeating since the surgery, and the last time was a couple of weeks ago when I got caught up in the dinner conversation and didn't monitor. Once I realised how uncomfortable I was feeling and the mucous and saliva started, I made myself be sick to get over it. Hasn't happened again.

It doesn't mean anything except that we fall into old habits when our mental energy is focused elsewhere. You won't do it many times before you start to consistently learn good habits.

Sending healing thoughts for your husband your way, and a virtual hug for you in keeping it all together in a difficult time.

Be good to yourself. You deserve it too. Take care of yourself first, so that you can continue to take care of others.