Another good response to tell someone off is say to them "consider the source"! I myself believe in an eye for an eye theroy because as with anything anyone does thats evil, criminalistic, or just plain rude is that they deserve to be accountable because 99.9% of the time people do or say shit they could of stepped back because it was premeditated by these losers and deserve to be pushed back cause thats how you gain respect and then they leave you alone kinda like bullying. I never start trouble but I sure as hell never take it! Everone is born with the common sense instinct of wrong and right. True example my seven year old son was being picked on at school and after trying to get administration involved of course in never stops the problem by punishing a bully or trying to talk to them so I said to my son very next time punch him in the jaw which he did and guess what no meeting 2nd time around with bullies parents. Now that punk never messes with my son and now he kisses my sons ass but my son will never be his friend! Mean and stupid people suck!

That person is so miserable w/ herself, so she lashed out at a perfect stranger, when all she wanted to do was bury her self disgust in a bag of Doritos and a super size big gulp. You showed extreme class.

I love your reaction to this lol It doesnt matter what you look like people will be jealous of what they don't have that they want so they treat you like shit when you have it! As if teating you bad will make them better people????

Originally Posted by lil_lisa

I think what you eat is a personal decision and nobodys business, agreed?

I just came back from 5 days at Disney..... every time I saw a large person with a turkey leg and/or cotton candy,,,, I was just so thankful that the sleeve is an option for me.

I think what you eat is a personal decision and nobodys business, agreed?

And yep Ann - the better think to say to her of course would have been "Bless your heart"" LOL

I was totally shocked but sadly this isn't the first time I have had shit like that said to me. True I did deserve it as a joke from friends when I hit 98 pounds and I laughed and told them all that if one more person told me to eat a cheeseburger I was gonna go to Mickey D's and buy 100 of them and beat them all with them. lol They stopped. But they had a right to be concerned when my weight went down that far.

I will admit as bad as this sounds; that when I see a morbidly obese person filling up on huge sodas and candy I am kind of like "ugh" but it's more because of due to that was ME 3 years ago and I thank God I took this step. But when I see children that are morbidly obese sorry THAT just downright pisses me off. If a parent wants to be fat and unhealthy (and c'mon I don't buy the whole "yes I'm obese but I'm still healthy" crap) then that's their choice but when I see them shoveling the crap into their kids that's a form of abuse or neglect or laziness; whatever.

I still can't believe that I came out looking like the bitch but that's ok at least I'm a skinny bitch lol

What insane, unhappy, unbalanced, awful people. The woman who first accosted you might also have been on drugs.

Reminds me of when the heavy women in a shoe shoe store called jessiejess a "skinny bitch."

But great comeback, Sue.

After thinking hard for 2 minutes, I still don't know what I could / should would have said to her, if anything. Situations like that just sort of gobsmack you, don't they?

THAT was a great comeback! Anyone rude enough to blurt like she did deserves a colorful comeback!

You can't win. When you were obese, people thought you should be eating salads instead of a cheeseburger, now that you are thin, they think the opposite.

Are you happy at your weight? If so, "F" everyone else.

Her kids were with her because they had no school; she in turn, has "no class".
I commend you on not ripping her a new one in front of her children (she probably would have shoved some fattening food in that new hole anyway).

Keep up the good work. You look great.

You could have always told her a lie:
"I weigh this much since it is difficult for me to keep down food, especially greasy food like cheeseburgers, because I am dying of cancer. Thank you for your concern".
Then her little overweight kids would have seen what she is like, killed her in her sleep and ate her corpse.

WOW that is crazy... But good for you.

That's horrible. I can't believe some stranger would say that out loud to you in a store! What a lowlife! And the rest of them too who chimed in.

I liked the post. It was a kick in the butt, but I needed a kick. I am still in the pre-op diet phase, but I want to print this out for when I get my surgery so that I remember.

The truth always hurts.

Very amusing thread. I'm an intelligent classy well educated woman who says fuck a lot-- Need that on a T shirt!

Wow

Right back at you BBCorvette18.

Its nice to see people younger than me feel the way you do about being overly politically correct. The advice you gave the person I was referring to, may have been a little harsh, but dammit, he was compromising the procedure. If he or that "Taco Bill" guy (he ate the taco 1 day after being sleeved) caused the incision to open, they could be talking about serious medical problems.

Maybe it wouldn't happen, all I know is if a surgeon who has performed thousands of these procedures successfully tells me to, or not to, do something for only a few weeks, after I just underwent major surgery and had 75% of my stomach removed, I will follow his/her instructions. Others don't have to and can do what they want, all I know is I had no problems and am healing well by following the instructions.

It's just not the way this new generation of politically correct over sensitive don't say no douchbags have been raised. IMO society is fucked.

I don't think it should be deleted. "azladyrider" is being true to herself and she is calling it like she sees it.
It may be as subtle as a sledgehammer to some people, but that is who she is.

We need to be supportive of each other and encouraging, but sometimes coddling grown adults is not the best approach. You shouldn't kick someone who is down, but a little "tough love" can be a motivator, if done in a positive way.

A person wrote a few days ago that they were eating solid foods less than 1 week after being sleeved -that is very dangerous, to say the least.

If the responses were: "Now (their name isn't important), when you eat solid food only days after major stomach surgery, not following the surgeon's and every other health care professional's expertise, you make yourself feel bad. That makes me feel bad. You don't want either one of us to feel bad now, do you? So be a big boy and follow the instructions".
That would not get the message across. It is one thing to be misinformed, it is another thing to deliberately jeopardize your health because you want to do whatever you want to do.

I think the whole thread should be deleted. What an embarrassment.

LOL. I saw the date it was written, 08-11-2013, over one year ago!
This could have been written today and been a response to many people.

Resurrect this from time to time, it is worth repeating.

Wow - I wonder how I missed all of this?!?!? Well I am one of the newbie dumb asses - BUT I don't mind someone telling me the truth (even if it does hurt) to help get me straight - soooooo I guess I can see both points being bantered around. But it seems there is some long and bad history here between some of you and I am truely sorry for that. (sorry - it's the grandma gene that comes out) I applaud all of your success and wish you could be kinder to each other - BUT I totally admit I was terribly entertained reading this - it is almost like a sopa opera!

My girl how have you been? Love to see you get on here and tell the truth! I just love it, love it, love it!

Amusing.

Bless your heart.

LOL Wow - yep Valdonton my life is great - and?? So I guess you are saying yours isn't so that's why you need this site? To suggest that one is pissed off is to suggest that one gives a F*. It's 5 am and I am up working but always have time for my daily amusement here. Thanks for providing it. I never needed this place for anything, not like some that come here and sit all day long and make this their daily dose of a social life.

And aanderson I have no issues with someone coming here and asking something, it's the "gee I just ate whole bag of chips and a steak and I am a week out from surgery and I am not losing any weight, WHY AM I THROWING UP or the doctor is at fault, he did something wrong" see the ridiculousness in that? I got sick on eggs at two or three weeks out I think it was, again it's been so long that I don't remember, but if I said anything about it all I would have said would have maybe asked if anyone else had a problem with eggs or something along the lines of "well that didn't work out so well, so I know not to do that again" but NOT "well wahhhh I just ate some eggs and they made me throw up - why didn't anyone tell me and something must be wrong" There's the difference. When I first came to this site looked for things like hotel recommendations and for posts about the types of gas strips or whatever to take with me or what kind of vitamins others recommended and most of all I looked up recipes and things that people might have suggested to get away from the boring broth and shakes. In other words, for information. And what happened within less than a week? I got the nastiest most hateful messages here (some from the very same little miss innocents that trash talk here) saying I was a vain old bitch and I needed to LEAVE immediately and I didn't need the surgery, etc. And that was when I was first starting out and hadn't said a negative word. And THEN after I started losing I got more mail from some of the same people who surprisingly had lost 20 pounds in a year (always private hmmmm) that I looked like crap and that I STILL didn't need to lose any weight etc etc. But oh that never got put out there here anywhere did it? lol But that's ok, I had the surgery and anything I did wrong along the way didn't hinder my weight loss and I never had to play the blame game for anything I did. Someone eating steak and chips and ice cream and THEN posting that they just can't imagine why they aren't losing weight IS playing the blame game and isn't the personal responsibility that all of us should take for our actions.
If I had of done something or ate something that caused my weight loss NOT to happen and come out here and said WHY WHY WHY am I not losing weight (after stating bad choices) that's a whole other ball game and that's the attitude I find to be annoying. Thankfully I did lose the weight and I never made any bad choices that hindered my success.

Getting back to work now - have a wonderful day ok?

SHEESH lol

I find the newbie and just post-op posts to be helpful. I didn't know what questions to ask my surgeon until I spent some time on this forum, yes I had some questions but I came up with a lot more because of others' posts. I also learned what not to do and things to try to help in certain situations from this forum. If I read a newbie post that the person is not losing and he or she is eating steak and ice cream, I know to stay away from steak and ice cream and have it as a small and rare treat long after my surgery. I have also read plenty of posts from people following their surgeon's directions to a tee, still having problems, and looking for advice because every body is different and every surgeon is different. My body might not take too well to cheese but someone else's might. So while some might not like the newbie posts, I find them very helpful. And considering we live in a technological age, freedom of speech is also freedom to post, meanies and newbies alike!

I think along with some of your weight, you lost some sense. This site is for ADVICE from people who are going through the same thing. If they want advice from their doctor, they ask. If they want advice from us, they ask. I think you really need to work on your way with words with people. I can't believe your ridiculous attitude! Don't come back, if we all piss you off so much. Besides, your life is going wonderful, right? So what do you need US for?

Sorry? One can be busy running a successful business and having a life and still have a little time to type - I multi task and type fast I have been up since 5 this morning working and had back to back meetings and still found time to socialize. And, so??? I am sure you will have a snarky comment on that too LOL Laughable

LOL I never whine. There is a difference in whining and venting disgust which is what my blog here is about. Don't like it? Not my problem. There are others here that have also clearly stated that don't "tolerate stupid" (their words not mine but it's a great quote) why not go after them? LOL WHATEVER!

And quite frankly maybe if you would open your eyes you would see that I respond in a nice way at first ... and then the person who ASKED for opinions says No you are wrong (when they haven't even had the surgery yet) THAT is what's disgusting.

So sorry you can't handle a straight up front personality. It is that personality that got me from bankruptcy and near homelessness in 2009 back to a 6 figure business that I worked day and nite to build. It is also that personality that has made me one of the top event coordinators for charities in the Phx area.

Never get tired of the "oh my stomach hurts", oh my stomach is making noises, oh I have heartburn. Um lol you just had your stomach cut out for christs sake what the hell did you expect? DUH!!!!!!!!!!!!!

How many days should I take off work, how many days will I stay in the hospital, etc - um ask your doctor or patient coordinator. Why in the hell would someone ask others for medial advice? I have seen people who took off 6 weeks! REALLY? When I once very politely stated that I was up working from my recovery bed I got blasted for THAT too. Why? I didn't put anyone down for wanting to take 6 weeks off so why blast me for answering THEIR question on how long people took off from work? THAT'S the kind of crap that is uncalled for actually.
I also remember being bashed for losing all the weight - REALLY? WHY? Someone asked me on a comment on one of my pictures how much I had lost and what size I am now and I stated the facts and very nicely too. So what happens that time? I get blasted for "bragging"? LOL I didn't brag, there was a question asked and I answered it period. The fact that some people don't like the facts will not change them.

I didn't ask such questions why? Because I did my research and I searched the forum here before I ever asked anything which was hardly ever but since it has been over a year I don't remember what I asked but I know I didn't ask things unless I looked for them here first and couldn't find an answer.

Then to have my own words twisted and have someone say that I BINGED? Um sorry that's COMPLETE CRAP! I never ever said any such thing - I will admit what I said but I will also stand up against anyone that outright lies to make themselves feel better about themselves. I don't have to feel better about myself, I m fine just as I am as my friends can all attest to.

So you all go on thinking I am a bitch and I will go on not caring lol

Nitey nite all thanks for the laughs again here. Never ceases to amaze AND amuse!

Exactly Onery

Originally Posted by valdonlon

alazyrider...No offense but you are totally overstepping here...Almost ALL newbies might eat a little more than they should have. ITS ALL part of learning their new tummies. I luckily haven't whined once about ANYTHING and I feel somewhat attacked by you that "It's always the newbies and the preop people..." I would like to quote you again " Sure wish I knew how to delete my profile". Just so you know, you don't need to delete your profile. If you don't like us here, just don't come back. NONE of us need your nasty comments. Also, I'd like to ad, if you're so busy with your new, thin, happy life and so so many business meetings, why the hell would you purposely come here to spread hate? You maam are an ass!!! Plain and simple! Your comments will now be ignored by me. Ta Ta

I like your post about it being a learning process that is so true no one has been through this before... Kudos to your comment about how busy she is with all her business meetings and life lol! She gets tired of hearing people whine? What does she think she's doing?