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  1. Ann2's Avatar
    I haven't replied to your post yet because it was painful to read. It's clear how much pain you're in and how overwhelmed you are feeling.

    So here's my advice, since I know next to nothing about your actual situation:

    Forget about your husband. You can't do anything about him. You can do nothing to alter his attitudes, behaviors, or decisions.

    But you can change your own attitudes and behaviors, but only if you have the balls to do so and only if you want to thrive during the rest of your life instead of barely survive. In fact, your attitudes and behaviors are absolutely all you can change.

    One word: Therapist.

    I send you my very, very best wishes for your future health and happiness.
  2. zoey101's Avatar
    Wow! I am so sorry your Husband is not being more compassionate toward you. Keep in mind that he is going through allot with the passing of his Father and maybe he is struggling in his own way but unfortunately he is taking it out on you. Also sometimes I've heard that Husbands and Wives can feel threatened by their spouses weight loss and worry secretly that once you start getting attention your not used to they fear you will leave them. These of course are just ideas but one never knows what really goes on inside someone else's head. With that said if you have gained this much weight back you immediately need to get back on track and start with the basics. You also need to have a serious conversation with your Dr. about your medications. You almost lost half your body weight and if the meds aren't lowered it could be doing serious damage. Also medications can cause severe weight gain so you need to ask your Dr to prescribe you something that doesn't have this side effect. Please take care of yourself, you were doing amazing and if you don't get a hold of this you may end up right back where you started and I'm sure you don't want that. I really hope you figure all of this out but most importantly call and get an appointment with your Dr before anything else. Then I would have a heart to heart with your Husband and let him know it is completely unacceptable to speak to you like that. Good Luck!
  3. Christie13's Avatar
    Go back to basics. Focus on protein and veggies. Eating the crap foods like cake you can eat a ton. I am willing to bet you still have restriction when you are eating solid proteins like meat. You can do this. But remember you are doing this for YOU. You are worth it. You DESERVE to be happy and healthy. Sending you big hugs.
  4. pugtato's Avatar
    Sounds like your husband is a real jerk.

    Sorry to sound blunt, but it's probably a good idea you leave him. The mental abuse you described in the above post is 95% of the weight gain. The other 5% is thinking you weren't good enough. Let me tell you right now, you are good enough and you're too good for your husband.
  5. cathbas's Avatar
    Get to a good weight loss doctor around you. get help...first, having the sleeve is not the easy way..nothing is easy..loosing weight is not easy..and keeping it off sure isnt easy.. so get help you cant do this alone..find a good dr that is near you..that know all about this surgery..and will help you...
  6. Stacey03's Avatar
    It sounds like you have had a really hard time. Psyc meds can be massive weight gainers too. Is there a way to change your psychiatrist to get a different opionion as it seems unusual that none of your meds were changed with your weight loss. That might be a good first step.
    It also sounds like there might be some unsuportive people in your life which won't have helped you. I think you can be sucessful, you have been before but I think you need the support of a good doctor and good psyc to help you get back on track. I've heard that going back to basics will help. so eating like when you first had the sleeve for a couple of weeks, protein shakes and chicken to get you back on track. Maybe seeing a good dietician might help too to get a plan in place.
    Also counselling of some sort as from reading your message i worry that you have been treated badly and might need some support to stand up for yourself. Nobody should treat you badly. nobody should be mean about your weight and nobody should make you do anything you don't want to do. I hope that with support that you can put yourself at the top of the list. You are a priority. do not spend time thinking you are a failure. The show isn't over yet. Much love and hope for changes for you x
  7. sraebaer's Avatar
    Sorry for all your troubles. I joined Weight Watchers (crazy right?!?) but it has really taught me how to track and I like weighing weekly and meeting with others in my same situation. I got back to my goal weight in 2 weeks. Now I can go for free because I was a lifetime member way back when. It is exactly how we should be eating, "free" foods are fish, chicken, eggs, fruit, and veggies. Works for me. Not to mention it's easy with our smaller stomach to fill up. Back in the day I was so hungry I'd eat all my points by lunch. You can do this!
  8. AnnieG's Avatar
    I will be praying for you to have peace with yourself, and to find your way back You've had great success before, and so you can do this!
  9. Dawnislas's Avatar
    You know what to do just do it. You have to take charge of your life and advocate for yourself at the DR with your medications and with your food choices. I have lost control of food choices since Halloween but am determined to get back on track today. You can do the same. Good luck
  10. dec567's Avatar
    Seth said it all. You just need to get away from the "last meal" mentality. It is the "first step" to your health. Without sounding flaky.
  11. Pamcake49's Avatar
    Best wishes for a speedy recovery and successful weight loss journey!
  12. Pamcake49's Avatar
    Good luck to you - can't wait to hear more!

    Take care,
    Pam
  13. SethP's Avatar
    Do not get that mind set of "last meal". You are not going for execution you are going for surgery. You will be able to eat all the foods you love again in the future, just very small amounts. Remember the surgery is the easy part of the process, the mind games are the hardest for most of us. Godspeed on your journey.
  14. babs8's Avatar
    Good luck, my surgery is on the 13th and I'm jealous that yours has been moved up. Best of luck for a speedy recovery. Are you going to Mexico and who is your surgeon? Mine is Dr. Almanza in Tijuana.
  15. Toopie2Seater's Avatar
    I really tried not to laugh at your post but couldn't help it..... The fork vacuum and vodka. Maybe Robert's dad has a touch of dementia / Alzheimers?! It would definitely explain some of his behavior. Prayers to Robert who is courageous enough to assume care of an ailing parent and had to move from his love (you) in order to do so; that must be so hard for him. Congratulations on your decision for surgery. You seem very committed and I think you'll do great. Keep us posted! We want to share and congratulate you on your victory after surgery! Best wishes. =)
  16. Lee6Lee's Avatar
    Good luck....in every way!
  17. Terps's Avatar
    Dr. A is great, you are in good hands. Take care.
  18. Rerun4u2's Avatar
    Sound like you have your hands full. Good Luck!
  19. sociologist's Avatar
    Best of luck with your upcoming surgery. Hope you have a speedy recovery:-)