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What to say after surgery?

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So I am wondering whether I tell people about the surgery in Mexico after I get it done or not too? I am young, 20 and in college and I am not sure if I want to tell people I got the surgery or not? Need opinions on this!

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  1. jamma's Avatar
    I am having my sleeve done at the end of this month. I, too, have been trying to decide whether I would tell people. I have decided and have told my two best friends and family. That's it. Later, when people notice my weight loss, I will decide on a case-by-case basis whether or not to tell that person. Since you really have to diet anyway, I figure I can let my new eating habits speak for themselves, and just let people think I have just dieted away all my excess weight.
  2. elle77's Avatar
    At the end of the day it's YOUR choice. You are really young and have the chance to start over fresh. You will know who you want to tell when the time comes. Best of luck to you with your surgery! ♥
  3. Shirl's Avatar
    That is utterly up to you.

    There is still a lot bias and misinformation about Bariatric Surgery out there.

    Only you know reason or reasons why you have decided to go through surgery, if you are of sound mind no one should oppose any decision you make for yourself.

    Be prepared, people will respond based on how well informed they are. Don't take anything personally and learn to be your best advocate.
  4. lorylynch's Avatar
    It is your choice!! and I told my co-workers husband and kids, However I did not tell my parents
    worried about the things they might say.
    Good luck
  5. KariVSG's Avatar
    i have only told a hand full of people, i dont think its anyones business.
  6. zoey101's Avatar
    Very few people know about my surgery let alone Mexico. I started at a lower weight than most and didn't want to hear all the BS that everyone would say. I know they would have thought I was crazy or lazy and why couldn't I do it on my own. Well I'm 51 years old and did the surgery when I was 49 so guess what I have been doing it on my own my entire life and I'm tired and could never keep it off. This was my choice my decision and what was best for me and my future and I couldn't be happier that I took this step to better my life. You know the people around you so only you will know how they will react. It's a very tricky thing to worry about but most people don't need to know. The part about Mexico is even more of a reason to keep it to yourself. When my Brother in-law found out about Mexico he became inspector gadget and doing all this research and freaking out. I ignored him and as it turns out I haven't had any issues or problems from surgery in Mexico at all. Listen people panic because they care about you and love you and it does usually come from a good place but if you don't want to hear any negativity I would keep it to myself at least for now. Again it's your life and only you know the people around you and maybe your support system will be great, mine not so much except for immediate Family members and 2 friends. Best of luck to you either way.
  7. sraebaer's Avatar
    Whatever you want! I didn't tell at first, but then later on when everyone was startled with my weight loss, i did tell some people, probably because I just can't lie. For me it keeps me accountable, I don't want to be that lady who had weight loss surgery and has gained back all her weight. (Something I hear quite a bit.) Works for me! Kept it off for 2 1/2 years!

    I also inspired 2 people to have the surgery, one stranger, a sub I started to talk to in the teacher's lounge, and also the wife of a co-woker. Feels pretty cool to have been a part in changing the life of two people.
  8. Kindle's Avatar
    You can tell them whatever you want. You don't have to say anything, but you will probably get asked about your weight loss. Unfortunately, you don't really know how people will react, but it's kind if a good way to weed out who your true friends really are. If you choose not to tell the truth, make sure your story is consistent and believable. People aren't dumb and getting caught in a lie may turn against you. I saw this happen with someone who had bypass years before me who claimed her weightloss was all due to diet and excercise(she did take up kick boxing). But her secret finally came out and she had several friends that could have cared less about the surgery but were offended that she had lied to them. Being in college also means you are a little more transient and you likely will never see these people again after you graduate so your new post college social circle will only ever know you as thin and the questions about weight loss will never even come up.

    I didn't announce it on social media or anything, but when asked how I lost so much weight I Said I had surgery. This usually led to more questions which led to explaining what VSG is (most people only know of bypass and Lapband) and all about having surgery in Mexico. I also explained about how I have to eat and how much effort and work really goes into it. I see a dozen clients/day, so I got asked these questions A LOT. It got old after awhile, but I didn't mind sharing and there are hundreds of people out there that are now better informed about WLS and the wonderful Mexico healthcare system. At least 3 people have subsequently had WLS after talking with me and my PCP has referred patients to my surgeon.
  9. Sandra3's Avatar
    Well, it really depend on how you want to handle things. Since I didn't want to tell everybody around me I only told a few friends and relatives. I knew that a few people I know (that I don't really like) would probably have prejudice against the surgery and start big debates about "the easy way bla bla". But I'm a middle age woman and no time to lose...
    As I've been known to be on a new diet almost all the time, people around me saw me losing and gaining weight all the time for 20 years.
    I live overseas, I travel often and saw a few months ago a few friends I didn't see since before the surgery. For them obviously it's a shock. One couple of friend was really worried I was sicker than usual so I told them about the surgery and they were really happy...and relieved. An old friend from school just said "this time it seems to work better, thats great" I just said yes.....and didn't go into details.
    There's not perfect way to handle it, just keep it simple. BUT the word Mexico and surgery in the same sentence will bring fire for sure...I tried..
  10. SecretSleever's Avatar
    I only told a hand full of people (The family I live with). As you can tell by my name on here, Ive kept it a secret So far I have no regrets about that decision. A lot of my family and friends believe that it is "The easy way out" and they are VERY judgmental.. The choice is totally yours. Do whatever you feel is right!
  11. Libby8732's Avatar
    I had a band in 2009 and told no-one except my husband. This made life very difficult when socialising with friends and trying to 'hide' the fact that I couldn't eat alot and could not drink whilst eating. This culminated over the years in trying so hard to be like everyone else I ended up over eating regularly and vomiting - eventually the band slipped and I had it removed. I am 2 weeks post op and I have told everyone close to me and work colleagues, everyone, after I have given reasons have been fully supportive and totally understand my reasons. This now has removed the pressure of having to hide things and so I can move forward with my journey without worrying and looking over my shoulder.
    I also can be honest when people are asking how I am losing weight, I always had this guilt feeling not being totally honest with people.
    I want this to be a long term success and I do think honesty is the way forward for me.
    However, I am not narrow minded enough to think everyone must do they same. It is your choice in the end and what you are comfortable with.

    Good luck xxx