Reason for everything?

[duben3]

Please excuse me while I vent. It's hard because there's not many I can share this with and with all of you I feel I can! I didn't receive a promotion yesterday. Instead they chose the same person that they chose a few years ago. So here I've been doing the job all along and I've been there longer, but they chose the one that is absent all the time and makes tons of mistakes. I don't get it!

I guess I have to look at it that someone has other plans for me! They're trying to clear the way for me to take care of myself for a change and to get this surgery that will help me to become healthier. Maybe they're trying to tell me that by not getting this promotion, taking the time to heal myself will lead to bigger and better things in my future.

I don't know, I hope this is the case. I have to keep telling myself that there's a reason for everything that happens. Maybe this is the reason. Thanks for letting me vent! It helps to write my feelings down and to talk to others about this, even if no one responds!

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Hi hun. I am a firm believer in "Everything Happens for a Reason" I am so sorry you didn't receive the promotion you were hoping for, that totally sucks and its totally normal to be angry, hurt, etc...Vent away my dear, we are here to listen =) It sucks that we can't see the future! I hope you don't mind me sharing a little story with you...
My insurance required 6 months of classes before they would approve my sleeve procedure. Towards the end of my classes my Dr had left the practice. I decided to stay with the practice & new Dr even though I had a unsettling feeling about him.. I didn't want the hassle of transferring everything, I was worried it would take too long. So the end of Nov I took my last class and was patiently waiting for 6 weeks until I got my approval. I called the office after 6 weeks and asked how I would receive word because I was starting to get nervous that they denied me. Turns out the office NEVER sent my paperwork to insurance and NO ONE told me that I needed to see the new Dr before they could submit my paperwork...she apologized profusely but I was so sad and hurt it was unbelievable. They had just set me back 6 weeks!! I called my old Dr (in the process of opening his own practice) and had my records transferred, which would take another 2 weeks. Setting me back about 2 months. =(

BUT here is the moral of the story: I work in the public school system..I was hoping to have my surgery the end of January which meant I would have missed 2 weeks (10 days) of work. After I got my approval I scheduled my surgery for the 1st day of Spring Break...we also have the following Monday off so I will only be missing 4 days instead of 10 (I have enough sick pay to cover those 4 days but dont have enough for 10). I was so hurt in the beginning but after I got everything scheduled I realized THIS was the DR I was supposed to have my surgery with, and I was NOT supposed to miss a lot of work, Im a single Mom so the missing work was kinda scary for me anyway.
EVERYTHING will be okay hun =) Everything does happen for a reason. Right now you need to focus on you. Great things are ahead for you! =)

[lisa2job]

I too believe everything happens for a reason!! Karma ............ something bigger and better is coming your way

[duben3]

Thank you so much Krista! It is hard, but I have to believe there was a reason. If I had received the promotion I would've felt compelled to put off my surgery because of learning the new job. In a way it's lifted that burdon off of my shoulders, but the money would've been nice! I'll deal with it and try to keep my head up and continue to do the best that I can. Part of me wants to be vindictive, but it won't do anyone any good to be that way and I don't believe in burning bridges.

[duben3]

Yes, lisa2job....I truly believe in Karma and know that everything that comes around goes around. In the end we all get what we deserve or are worthy of. My time will come, right now my focus has to be me and my health! Thanks!

[Kazoogirl]

I know exactly what your going through, I too have been passed up for promotions many times. I honestly can say my weight has played a big role I know deep down it has hurt me professionally. It hurts, and I guess I just settled and accepted it. But you do get over it and we never know whats around the corner. I also agree it would be too much to take on a new job AND go through this huge life transformation. Hang in there, pretty soon they'll be so jealous cause you are looking so good!

[duben3]

Thank you Christy, yes I sometimes wonder if it's the weight issue that blocks me from promotions. But as you said a new job and this journey I'm about to go through would be too much! It's nice to know that I'm not the only one that has gone through this same thing. You're also right about the jealousy thing too. I sometimes wonder if that's why so many people try to stop me from taking this journey. I have my pre-op appt next week already, so we'll see what happens.