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    Two months ago after a meeting at work I was cutting me a slice of cake and a new employee said "When will the baby arrive?" I didn't answer at first because I was sure she wasn't talking to me, however I did turn around to see which coworker of mine was pregnant. When I seen big eyes and everyone mouth wide open I realized she was talking to me. I proceeded to tell her that my son is 4 yr old, and out of anger ask her "how many months are you". I was so embarrassed I put the knife down and started to clean up (without cutting me any cake) out of shame. One because she thinks I'm pregnant and two that I acted just as foolish as her. So time has passed and she stays out of my way most of the time.

    So Tuesday of this week I'm at my desk and my cell phone rang. I answered it because I knew it was my coordinator for my surgery and I didn't want to miss the call. I asked her a few question about my passport and confirmed how to make payment. When I ended the call another new coworker (who wasn't employed yet at the other embarrassing meeting) said " I didn't know you was expecting!" Again everyone gasp for air as I turned red. I smiled and told her that I didn't know that either. She shamefully apologized about listing in to my phone conversation. I'm sure that is not it because I never mention that I was having surgery on that call and for all she knew I could just be planing a vacation.

    I had to go to the bathroom and take a look at my belly while shedding a tear. Do I really look pregnant? Why would someone ask if I was?

    Lastly I must add that I work for a program that educate mothers. I would be devastated for them to ask a mom when is she due only to find out her infant is 3 month old. Most of our clients are young, single and truly need education not you reminding them they have a mommy bump.



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    Gastric Sleeve Member hnybun128's Avatar
    I have had a gastric sleeve.
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    Default Re: Are You Pregnant?

    Oh. My. God. I just have no words.

    Oh wait, yes I do. I am so sorry! People are idiots!


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    Default Re: Are You Pregnant?

    Boo! Soon they will be eating their words!!!


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    Default Re: Are You Pregnant?

    Quote Originally Posted by Misty Michelle View Post
    Boo! Soon they will be eating their words!!!
    I can't wait!



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    I have had a gastric sleeve.
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    Default Re: Are You Pregnant?

    Quote Originally Posted by hnybun128 View Post
    Oh. My. God. I just have no words.

    Oh wait, yes I do. I am so sorry! People are idiots!
    true



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    Gastric Sleeve Member workinprogress40's Avatar
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    Default Re: Are You Pregnant?

    Ebony, I'm pretty shuts the two ladies probably didn't mean that in a hurtful way, they probably was just as embarrassed as you were , because i have done that a couple of times to women, and it has been done to me.when people ask me am I pregnant I just say hell Naw just big as hell!! Lmao



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    Default Re: Are You Pregnant?

    It happens to me ALL the time, everywhere I go, shops etc. Some days I am graceful and understanding, some days I will have a joke but there are days when I can't believe someone thinks they have thew right to assume something. I may be like this for other reasons, eg serious liver disease! These days I am blatent in my NO and make sure they know that they have no right to comment. Although if a lovely old lady mentions it I just tell her that I am 5months and try to quickly work out a due date!!! I just dont have the heart to let her down!!
    The thing that gets me through most days is that its not sooo bad, at least its only my belly thats big and I'm not big everywhere else!!!!
    Chin up, I know where you're coming from and am on the countdown till my surgery. You will be able to stand tall, you could even say back to then in 9 months that you've had they baby, you'll be skinnier to prove it!!!!!


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    Default Re: Are You Pregnant?

    That didn't happen to me, but a few years ago I was wearing a red fleece pullover in the hardware store and this kid in the shopping cart saw me from behind and yelled, "Mommy it's Santa!" The poor woman was so embarrassed and I just acted like I hadn't heard. But at least that was a kid. Grown adults have no excuse other than diarrhea of the mouth! Seriously, who doesn't know NOT to say that to ANYONE?

    Next time ask if they want to feel the baby, then when their hand is on your belly say, "Oh, what was I thinking? I am not pregnant!" And to be extra ornery, you could wait until after they "felt it kick" to give them the embarrassing news....(not to make light of your feelings, just wanted to make you laugh LOL)

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    Default Re: Are You Pregnant?

    I had a similar experience after the birth of my second child. I stopped by the bar that my landlord owned to drop off the rent check, he said "when is that baby of yours due?" Problem was, she was 6 weeks old! I'm not sure why I was embarrassed, he should've been, but I just said something lame about having had her already, threw the envelope at him and ran out of the bar crying. Some people are really stupid and insensitive! They really need to think before they speak!



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    Default Re: Are You Pregnant?

    Unless a woman is actively pushing and the baby is crowning I've learned to NEVER ask her when she is due.

    Sorry for the rude idiots!
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    Default Re: Are You Pregnant?

    Quote Originally Posted by angelamarie View Post
    That didn't happen to me, but a few years ago I was wearing a red fleece pullover in the hardware store and this kid in the shopping cart saw me from behind and yelled, "Mommy it's Santa!" The poor woman was so embarrassed and I just acted like I hadn't heard. But at least that was a kid. Grown adults have no excuse other than diarrhea of the mouth! Seriously, who doesn't know NOT to say that to ANYONE?

    Next time ask if they want to feel the baby, then when their hand is on your belly say, "Oh, what was I thinking? I am not pregnant!" And to be extra ornery, you could wait until after they "felt it kick" to give them the embarrassing news....(not to make light of your feelings, just wanted to make you laugh LOL)
    OMG is that funny.....

    I think I will try that next time



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    Gastric Sleeve Member Evie Sleevie's Avatar
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    Default Re: Are You Pregnant?

    Quote Originally Posted by FlowerGalTX View Post
    Unless a woman is actively pushing and the baby is crowning I've learned to NEVER ask her when she is due.

    Sorry for the rude idiots!
    FlowerGal, you took the words out of my mouth. Unless you see a baby exiting a womans vagina, you do NOT assume, presume or ask if she is pregnant!

    People suck sometimes!!


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    Wow Ebony, hate to hear this, you hang in there though, it'll get better, there are some dumb people in this world unfortunately.

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    Default Re: Are You Pregnant?

    That happened to me one time years ago. When I was asked if I was pregnant I just looked at them and said "no I am just fat", and walked away! I think most people mean no harm, but we are really sensitive about how we look & to be compared to a pregnant woman when you are not is not a nice thing.



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    Gastric Sleeve Member Texgal's Avatar
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    Default Re: Are You Pregnant?

    Well on the other hand I ran into a friend at target and hadn't seen her in years. We got to talking and she was like I'm 8 1/2 months pregnant and I was like I'm sorry I didn't say anything that made me feel bad. So either way you can't win for losing.
    “It’s not the mistakes in life that are important; it’s what we learn from them.” ~Donna Guthrie


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